My favorite bit of wisdom I’ve heard regarding income and being a housewife came from my sister: “Just as it is his role to bring in income, so it is my role to make living as inexpensive as possible.”
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I was tossing and turning – wide awake much later than the usual bedtime. And I was trying to hit the sack early, too. Nothing was troubling me really; I just kept thinking of tasks for the next day, certain that I would forget each one. It shouldn’t have happened, but I tip-toed away from the warmth of my sleeping husband and down comforter to write a to-do list, the heaviest item at the bottom: “Revamp budget.”
God has blessed us by allowing me to be a housewife/stay-at-home-mom, which means we’re a mostly-single-income family. Andrew is our bold & fearless bread-winner, and there are few efforts I manage here and there to bring something to the table, like being a columnist for the Catholic Connection, an amateur coupon-clipper, and paid chorister. While these little bits are blessings and they certainly add up, none of them have the steady rhythm and long-term job security that Andrew’s position has; and I guess they’re not really supposed to, either. If I signed up for steady and long-term, I might as well go back to the office.
The original intent, however, for all the extra pennies earned was Savings. Before Andrew and I tied the knot, my morality professor advised, “Learn to live on only Andrew’s salary and then when you have children and stay at home, you’ll be used to having just that income. It won’t be a financial crisis.” Rock solid advice and we took it to the bank. Yet lately we’ve grown comfortable with the extra monthly contributions, not saving as much as originally planned. Feeling like victims of our budget rather than taskmasters, we are re-addressing everything and, especially this month, tightening the cinch. Every last nickel is a blessing from God and it’s important to be excellent stewards of His gifts. We don’t want to take our extra income for granted or end up stunned in the event that it stops; so in light of this, we are “celebrating” Frugal February.
Not Spending Money can seem like a drag or it can be a game. On a related note, I’m a big believer in “every little bit helps” so if I can avoid spending $2 here or 50¢ there, our efforts toward Not Spending tend to snowball and it’s thrilling. For example:
- Coffee: Andrew and I are fancy-coffee-drinkers. We like it done-up and delicious like Starbucks – flavors, whipped cream, topped with caramel. But instead of paying $7 for a couple tall decaf cappuccinos, we put a pot on at home and then add some caramel topping and whipped cream from the store. Add a deck of cards to the scene and we’re all set.
- Coupons & Swag Bucks: I’m new to the whole coupon scene, but I know there’s an art to it worth pursuing. Stacking manufacturers’ coupons with store coupons (Target’s big into this) will save a BIG percentage on your grocery bill, especially if you combine it with weekly deals. Don’t throw those coupons out with the Sunday paper! Swag Bucks, too, are a recent thrill for me. It’s a website to earn points that add up to things like Target, Amazon, or Starbucks gift cards, electronics, movies, downloads, etc. You earn points by using the website as a search engine, answering a daily poll, entering codes, and other ways, too. Right now I’m shooting for Target and/or Amazon gift cards and really enjoying watching my points steadily stack up. Check it out/sign up at my referral link.
*The hyperlinks for Swag Bucks didn’t work in my original post,
so you can copy/paste the URL into your browser:
[www.swagbucks.com/refer/katieSciba] - Electricity: While small appliances like lamps and hair dryers don’t draw electricity when OFF, many larger appliances like TVs do. Unplugging your entertainment system each night and plugging it back in when in use can positively affect your electricity bill. Additionally, I try avoid turning on lights in the house during the day since every room has a window and natural light floods the house!
- Baby Stuff: Diapers. Liam will need them for a while longer and cloth diapers don’t work well with his super-sensitive skin. I use Amazon Mom and get 30% off (and free 2-day shipping) plus Parents Magazine often has 20% off coupon codes. Combine that with an Amazon gift card earned from Swagbucks, and you’ve got yourself a deal. Just yesterday I bought a box of 176 diapers for 44¢ total.
Instead of foolishly feeling subject to the Almighty Dollar, you should be its delegator. Dave Ramsey points out that money isn’t inherently good or bad; it does what YOU tell it to do. And I intend to put it to work.
Weekly Snapshot:
- Andrew and I are hooked on Farkle – an addictive game involving 6 dice. We played all Sunday morning over coffee and breakfast and as soon as one game was done, we started a new score sheet. What a great time! You can get it at the store OR you can scrounge up 6 dice from any other board games floating around the house and then search for the rules/point values online.
- Liam is sharp as a tack! I taught him this trick to help him get down from standing. It’s hilarious and darling.
Erin Franco says
Oh goodness…you WOULD write this post the same week that Michael and I had a HUGE (meaning: VERY DIFFICULT) discussion about our budget. 🙂
We took a Dave Ramsey class when we got married, and we were hugely blessed by it, both our finances and our marriage. But especially now that we have a house, that monthly budget is so, so tight.
And I just don’t have the time or energy to put into couponing, etc. At least I don’t right now, while I am still working 5 hours per day on non-housekeeping stuff. When Baby #2 arrives though, I’ll be home, and I’ll very, very much need to find ways to save!!
I really want to do a phone call with you sometime about staying home and marriage and frugality–I’m just slammed right now. I have so many questions I’d love to bounce off you! I’m about to go write an update post on my 8pm Shutdown (not working out this week so much:), but after that I have got to get some sleep! I’ve been pretty exhausted and nauseated most of the time with this baby so far, and it’s only 2 months along…:)
Jessica R. says
So glad that you’re writing for the Catholic Connection now! It’s nice to have a “home voice” for our readers.
It’s funny, I have also recently gotten on the coupons/swagbucks kick and it’s really starting to pay off! Time to buckle down with a baby fast approaching.
And while I don’t plan on being a stay at home mom, by husband does own his own business which is financially difficult and we’re about to have to adjust for the huge added expense of daycare!
Another site that I love is http://www.retailmenot.com. Great online coupon codes that usually save me a bundle!
Jenny says
Dave Ramsey is great. He changed our lives and the lives of our children. A priest has told me, we are to be good stewards of the money our husbands earn.
I’m a new follower from Catholic Mother’s Online…I would appreciate a stop by my blog to return the favor.